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time to save

Have you ever used online coupons before? I haven’t used many coupons before and that is what I’m missing out on. I’ve just discovered that at http://www.savings.com, you can actually get discount coupons for many online stores. Seeing that I’ve been browsing through a lot of online stores recently – stores like Banana Republic, Urban Outfitters, Hanes – and mentally picking out stuff to buy, these coupons will actually help me save some money.

Saving money is really important because you always want to have money for a rainy day, right? And with all the money I can save when using coupons, I can actually buy more stuff. Imagine all the 20% discount vouchers and 5 dollar discounts and free shipping you get. Even though it looks little, it can accumulate to a lot.

I’m actually at the site right now and I’m checking out all the deals they’ve got to offer. Those back-to-school deals are pretty good actually, considering school has just started and there’s still time to get some good stuff. My mom does a lot of online shopping so I think I’m gonna make her use these coupons so that she can save even more. If you’re a big fan of online shopping, you should really go get yourself some good deals at Savings.com.

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you’ll be out of ideas pretty soon

I will not be angry. It’s easy not to be angry actually but sometimes anger overtakes that calmness we have.

But, seriously, why get angry over something that won’t even affect you? Most people hear the boy crying wolf and they quickly help the wolf hiding beneath the sheep skin. It may be safe now but who knows when the wolf decides to remove its skin? Hmm… wouldn’t like to be there, huh?

Image from Bing images.

I didn’t know this wolf could baa like a sheep though. Hey, it complains more than a female sheep. Whoa. :shock: And the shepherds – is that what you call them? – enjoy giving the dear sheep (wolf in disguise) everything it bleats out. I didn’t know they could get such treatment! Ha ha.

“I salute you, shepherds!”

My friend said that after she told me the remix of those Aesop’s Fables. Apparently she read it on some email. Interesting.

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I’m stained with apathy I’m blind but I can see

I deserve better.

“O-kay. Here we go again. Round (hmm, let me borrow some fingers and toes) 865532.

WOOOOOO!! Fun ride again. I’m impressed by the new nicknames.

So while he can use all the foul words in this world on us, I can’t say a single word? Wowwwwza! Score for me! I see more and more justice in this world. And you can even laugh at his profanity-stringed jokes and then say that we are crude? I’m not one to say who you can scold but even a blind man could see the crookedness of your judgments.

I’m childish, I know I am, and you can say it if you like. I’m kinda getting immune to all this. Should really listen to C and observe absolute silence even when we’re being accused and scolded and lectured and abused(???). But I guess I’m just the type of person who can’t keep my mouth shut! I like being involved and I just can’t not care. Dammit, why am I such a stupid caring and emotional person? And when I care, I get it all slammed right back into my face and get called ‘unappreciative’. O-kay!

Oh, and I’m not sly enough to quickly change the direction of the conversation to make me sound brilliant. I sure should pick up on those skills so that I can get away with anything. NAAAAAASSSTY! I should be all like, “OHHH, ERRR, she looks like she’s having a change of heart” when being lectured for spilling out lots of unnecessary information. Then you’ll go, “REALLY?” and then the conversation will be directed away to other things. LOLOLOLOL!!!!!

And I’m sooooo sorry I’m not good with the FAKE apologies. It’s just not me. I’d rather not apologize than spit out ’sorry’s whenever I need you back. LOL!!! Funny! And I’m sooooo sorry I’m not sneaky enough to get back into your good books by filling the blue pail then leaving the red pail empty. Bet no one noticed that… Hmm… Well, instead of noticing that, you give him a big pat on the back and congratulate him for learning to be more responsible. GOOD JOB! ;) And I’m soooooo sorry I haven’t learned the skills of fake suicide and running away. That really got me laughing. Like HEEHAWWWW.

And we’re always in the wrong, aren’t we? No matter what we do or say, we’ll always be in the wrong. Sorry I can’t be perfect like that lil angel who will prolly stab you in the back one day. It’s teaching me to shut my mouth and not speak a word even though I’m right.

When I wash the damned dishes and actually put effort into doing something, it hardly gets recognized. When he manages (with your help, of course) to cook something, we’re expected to praise him and all sorts of shit. I don’t take it so well. When he vacuums the room, we’re accused for not helping and being ungrateful that he has done all the work (then complains about a backache later). Maybe I need the recognition every time I do something worthy. Maybe I live for recognition. But don’t we all sometimes? When he does something stupid and f-ed up, you ignore it. I ain’t giving out no more secrets cuz one day when the big bomb falls onto you, I ain’t gonna be there to say I TOLD YOU SO.

I’m also disappointed. All this anger and misery and biting sarcasm is actually budding from my disappointment.  You tell me that you weren’t talking about that. Well, I was. I still am. Whyyy? Because it’s been eating at me (mentally) for a whole year now and I’m still not over it. Much as I want to be okay and skipping happily again, there are some dark periods of time when the incident just replays over and over in my head and I feel un-okay.

Do you even know how it feels? To lie in bed and not notice you’re grinding your teeth because you’re angry at what happened? To lie in bed and subtly pull the sheets up as if to fend off your fear? To jerk awake when you hear sounds that sound like that person walking in? To dodge out of the way (while the incident replays in your mind) when you pass that person by in a narrow space? To close your eyes and want to die when you think a bit too far? To listen to that voice and feel the pit of your stomach stir with unease and sudden anger? To flinch inwardly when that person comes a little too close? To slam the bathroom door shut when you hear that person approaching? To feel your head tighten and your hands twitch when that person decides it’s fun to suddenly appear in the middle of the night? To pretend that you’re fine and okay to be around that person? To feel as if you can’t see the sunlight anytime soon? Do you?

No. You don’t have the slightest clue. You think it’s a joke; you think I’m making it up; you think I’m just being a drama queen; you think I’m exaggerating; you think it’s FUNNY.

And it saddened me to hear you telling me that wasn’t the point. It’s a really big thing to me and you just shoved it right back at me as if I was telling you a bad joke. The only person I trusted to understand how I felt pushed me away. Do you know how that feels? The only person I love and want to be loved back by pushed me away. Just when I finally had the guts to admit how I really felt, you turned me away. It took me a year and over the year, I’ve been talking to C, telling her everything. And she told me to tell you and every time I tried to, I couldn’t. C gave me advice, told me things I wanted to hear, told me that it’d be better if I told you, told me that I’d go bananas if I didn’t tell someone who could help me. And then yesterday I told you. And you ignored it completely and I got called bad names instead.

I think I would’ve preferred a stab to the chest. That hurt. I can’t believe you did that. It’s like a kid putting his/her trust into his/her parents, only to be dumped by both of them one day. Trust. I trusted you. I trusted you enough to know that you’d care. But no. I was there for you, why can’t you be here for me?

And maybe it just isn’t a big thing to you but mentally, it has scarred me. I hope you’re happy. Again.

Don’t come to me when he has stuck a knife into your back because I will be so numb by then, I won’t be able to feel your pain. Every little incident hardens me a bit more. By the end of the day, I’ll be heartless. And C and I will be there to laugh at him. His pride and idiocy can blind him into thinking that he’s god but he’s not and one day, what he deserves will come a-knocking. Don’t say we didn’t tell you so.

The irony of it all is that this all began when he started playing God.” – Unknown.

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say your faith is shaken

(credits to Google images)

Two girls and a dog. How cute.

Why ask questions with obvious answers? I don’t know but maybe you’re trying to get a different answer out of me. I’m sorry but my answer will never change. Don’t bother asking me to elaborate my answer. You already know.

I have a suggestion though. Why not you think about the positive points of the other side of the story? For once. I know it won’t help much but I’m trying, like you, to get different words.

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this love was worth it

I saw this the other day – I think someone posted it – and I like it. This is an article from copyblogger.com. I wish I came across this earlier because it sort of helps in big ways.

Doing these things can help you become a better writer:

1. Become a blogger.

2. Use self-imposed word limits.

3. Accept all forms of criticism and learn to grow from it. (Okay, still trying to get started here. Showing my work to others is sort of intimidating because it just is.)

4. Read what you’ve written over and over, until you can’t find any more problems. (Now I do this a lot but I often get distracted by other things)

5. Show what you write to a trusted friend for feedback. (Hah, my sister, sometimes)

6. Outline. And then write to that outline.

7. Edit, and edit again. (Don’t I always?)

8. Live with passion. (Ditto)

9. Be open, curious, present, and engaged. (Double ditto)

10. Take a break between writing and editing.

11. Learn a new word a day. (I don’t know if I’m doing this but I do look up the dictionary a lot)

12. Get the pen and fingers moving.

13. Write in different genres: blog posts, poems, short stories, essays.

14. Read grammar books. (There’s one lying beside me but I gave up on that a couple of months ago. Does that mean it’s time to pick it up again?)

15. Write without distractions. (I need this. Badly. Where is the solitary silence that I crave for?)

16. Challenge yourself: write in a crowded cafe, write on the toilet, write for 24 hours straight. (If only people would stop looking over my shoulder, lol)

17. Take a trip. Road trips, beach trips, bus trips, plane trips.

18. Watch movies. Can you write the story better? (Oh, I love this.)

19. Write. And then write some more.

20. Read, think, read, write, ponder, write – and read some more. (This is so me.)

21. Read your stuff aloud to anyone who can stand it – including the cat.

22. Go back and cut 10% from your word count. (I’m not exactly sure what this means but I do go back and cut)

23. Talk to people.

24. Listen to how people talk.

25. Read lots of books. Both good and bad. (Thanks, Twilight. LOL. Okay, that’s mean. I like good books and I pride myself in having good taste. My friends recommend books that they think are amazing. I find them so-so and sometimes, bad)

26. Make notes of your (fleeting) brilliant ideas.

27. Start your writing ahead of time – not hours before a deadline.

28. Listen to podcasts on writing tips.

29. Use simple, declarative sentences. (Picked this up from Mom who is also a writer and one of my favorite writers)

30. Avoid passive voice. (Really? Good advice. I’m constantly wondering which one to use – active or passive)

31. Limit your use of adjectives and adverbs. (Ah, ever descriptive us)

32. When in doubt, cut it out. (I need to observe this advice :/)

33. Kill clunky sentences.

34. Be inspired by other art forms – music, dance, sculpture, painting.

35. Read your old stuff and acknowledge how far you’ve come – and how far you have to go.

36. Write for publication, even if it’s only for the local newsletter or a small blog.

37. Make writing your priority in the morning. (I need my ‘me’ time *bangs head on keyboard*)

38. Keep squeezing words out even if you feel uninspired. (Blehh, I always close the word document when I’m uninspired)

39. Tell everyone: “I’m a writer.” ( :/ )

40. Recognize your fear and overcome it.

41. Let your articles rest and then return to them with fresh eyes.

42. Comment on your favorite blogs.

43. Keep a journal to keep the writing juices flowing.

44. Use a journal to sort out your thoughts and feelings. (Sometimes)

45. Keep it simple.

46. Practice monotasking. Set a timer for uninterrupted writing.

47. Watch people. (Good thing I’m a people-watcher then)

48. Get to know someone different from you and reflect on the experience.

49. Try new ideas or hobbies – the more variety you have in your life, the more likely you are to keep on generating good ideas on the page.

50. Read works from different cultures. It helps keep your writing from tasting stale in the mouths of your readers. ( ;) )

51. Rethink what is ‘normal’. (Always!)

52. Work on brilliant headlines. (I like)

53. Check if your assumptions are right.

54. Join a writing group. If you can’t find one, form one.

55. Write during your most productive hours of the day. (Usually when everyone’s quiet)

56. Designate time to research.

57. Take time to muse and mindmap.

58. Map out a writing schedule for your project and stick to it.

59. Ask someone else to proofread.

60. Read Zinsser’s “On Writing Well” at least once a year.

61. Break out of your comfort zone.

62. Write at the scene. If you want to write about a beach, get a picnic rug and go write by the sea. (Mmhmm, sounds goooood)

63. Go to the supermarket, the ball game, the class room, the building site. Make notes of the sensuous details, the atmosphere, the people. (I like this)

64. Start with metaphors and stories.

65. Approach writing with gratitude, not just with a ‘must do this’ attitude.

66. Deconstruct and analyze books and articles you enjoy. (I’ve turned pages of books I love until they’re all worn out. The more tattered my books are, the more you know the value of it to me)

67. Know about story architecture. Many writers don’t. Which is like doing heart surgery or flying an airliner by intuition. Survival rates are low.

68. Socialize with other writers.

69. Stretch or exercise in between writing. (I need to do this too)

70. Make a note of ideas for further development before you leave a piece for tomorrow. (I should because I like to keep it mind but when I wake up the next morning, I have to dig deep to remember what I was thinking about)

71.Use mindmaps for inspiration.

72. Take risks – don’t be afraid to shock. You are not who you think you are. (Cool. I’m Batman)

73. [Please add your own suggestion in the comment section!]

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